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coffeesp00ns  ·  3455 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are the movies or books that show a story rather than tell it?

Are you for real?

You asked a question. You received an answer. You shat on that answer. THEN When the person you stuck your nose up at showed that they were speaking from serious experience (which anyone who's been on this site for more than a month can attest to), rather than saying "whoa, my bad", you doubled down on your ignorant and childish behaviour.

KB doesn't need me to defend them - they're more than capable of twisting the english language into new and interesting ways to chastise - but I think it's important to know that when you speak in this community, people see you and remember your behaviour. I think it's also important to know that shitty behaviour will not just be witnessed here - people will call you out on it, because this is not, in fact, a new Reddit. This is a place where accountability matters.





user-inactivated  ·  3455 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I was expressing an opinion, hoping for a reply that will clear the situation regardless of whether the person I was expressing it towards - after they came to answer a question that I asked - agrees or disagrees. Clearly, something went wrong between us - I assume it's the assertive nature of my first reply. Yet then, the what is supposed to be authority on the matter get angry at a newbie whom they've never met - after one supposedly wicked reply?

Misunderstanding is fine, it happens to the best of us from time to time, but arrogance due to authority coupled with lack of either theory behind the answer or explanation why I may have been wrong or misunderstanding in the first place (which may have been the case, for I'm not perfect but not omniscient either) I will not tolerate, no matter whom it's coming from. How difficult it might be to answer my ignorance with "Well, no, you are confusing things, because" and state reasons for this?

If that's all it takes to piss off the person I'm talking to, I don't want to be talking to them.

EDIT: Don't listen to me. I'm not happy with how my life goes, and this makes me far more aggressive and selfish than I'd like to be. This argument isn't helping the situation but buries it deeper. Clearly, I've made a few mistakes here and there, and it would take some time for me to figure them out.

coffeesp00ns  ·  3455 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Don't listen to me. I'm not happy with how my life goes, and this makes me far more aggressive and selfish than I'd like to be. This argument isn't helping the situation but buries it deeper. Clearly, I've made a few mistakes here and there, and it would take some time for me to figure them out.

I know that feel, and I've been there more than once.

I think the takeaway here is - Watch how you say things. Written text has advantages, but it's also dangerous in that tone is almost nonexistant. Things said in jest, or in a more neutral tone when said in real life can take a significantly more sinister turn in text, especially when you are an unknown to the reader.

I mean, take a look at my post. I'm generally an unknown to you, and I'm swooping in to reinforce someone else's criticism - I'm sure my post came off more aggressive than it was written. The thing I wanted to impress upon you the most is the thing that probably got buried the fastest: Hubski's like a small town. Have you ever lived in a small town? If you have you know that people remember what you do, good and bad, and good will only goes so far to redeem perceived bad behaviour (that's just the way humans perceive). As a result, it's useful to handle people you don't know... not necessarily with kid gloves, but with a baseline level of respect.

user-inactivated  ·  3455 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you.