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coffeesp00ns  ·  3455 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are the movies or books that show a story rather than tell it?

    Don't listen to me. I'm not happy with how my life goes, and this makes me far more aggressive and selfish than I'd like to be. This argument isn't helping the situation but buries it deeper. Clearly, I've made a few mistakes here and there, and it would take some time for me to figure them out.

I know that feel, and I've been there more than once.

I think the takeaway here is - Watch how you say things. Written text has advantages, but it's also dangerous in that tone is almost nonexistant. Things said in jest, or in a more neutral tone when said in real life can take a significantly more sinister turn in text, especially when you are an unknown to the reader.

I mean, take a look at my post. I'm generally an unknown to you, and I'm swooping in to reinforce someone else's criticism - I'm sure my post came off more aggressive than it was written. The thing I wanted to impress upon you the most is the thing that probably got buried the fastest: Hubski's like a small town. Have you ever lived in a small town? If you have you know that people remember what you do, good and bad, and good will only goes so far to redeem perceived bad behaviour (that's just the way humans perceive). As a result, it's useful to handle people you don't know... not necessarily with kid gloves, but with a baseline level of respect.