I spent the day with my boss, wondering if tomorrow I'd be the guy that was next on the "ax" list. I'm not. But I have had weeks of wondering. I'm not out of the woods by any stretch, but I have at least another few months of safety. This is no way to exist though. As per your problem, I feel for you. There really is only one solution for such things and it's communication. Usually, this would entail a third party as witness. Sit down with her and in a calm, thoughtful and genuine way explain how she is making you feel. Let her know that you want nothing more than to work together and ask how you could be a better teammate. -Having a third party there is paramount. DO NOT DO THIS WITHOUT SOMEONE ELSE PRESENT THAT HAS NO "skin" in the game. Better yet someone that outranks you both. Good luck!
I probably should have such a meeting. I reread my earlier post, and something struck me as so obvious in my own writing that I have to highlight it: I am the part of the universe teaching her a lesson, or I very well could be. I have to stick it out. Duh. Hopefully this is one of those situations where you look back and everything worked out just the way it needed to. Because despite my immediate desire to see her outed as insecure and paranoid, have her squirm under the weight of my common sense position... I still most want this to end happily for the both of us.Normally, I'd be content to let the universe teach her a lesson and be on my merry way. Yet I'm very well stuck in this situation.