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_refugee_  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ask Hubski: Are you comfortable in your own skin?

When I was growing up my mom forbid all relatives to positively compliment me on my appearance. Negatives, they were okay though.





swedishbadgergirl  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, it's very flawed to be all "I don't want my kid to worry about appearance, so I wont talk about it like a positive feature".

I mean, people tell me its caring, but really? Isn't there just a tiny bit of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" in there? A tiny, tiny bit that's about thinking that people are "better" if they suffer?

I try not to be bitter, I really do.

user-inactivated  ·  3585 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ah! It was the same for me, only with regard to intelligence. At least, that's what the upshot was.