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ecib  ·  4656 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ask Hubski: What's on you're bucket list?
Not yet engaged. Finding the perfect ring is harder than I thought :) I know I'm overthinking it, lol.




gq  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I don't think it's really about the ring. It's the thought that matters the most.
forwardslash  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I hear ya; I just got engaged last week and spent probably too much time on the ring.

http://imgur.com/Bjfly

I was even given some diamonds the ring my finance's late father gave her mother which was a mixed blessing. Hopefully your girlfriend is as patient as mine was.

mk  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Nice choice!

I had the weird experience of getting my wife's engagement ring in China. My credit card wouldn't run at the store, so I had to go to the bank and then get a cash advance on my card. At the time it was 1USD to 8RMB. As the largest bill is 100RMB, I had a stack. I felt like a pimp dropping that on the counter. Even more so when 2 girls were called over to count it.

gq  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
That is the prettiest ring :)
mk  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
:)
thenewgreen  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Congrats forwardslash, what an exciting time in your life. The ring looks amazing, I'd say you did a great job. You mentioned her father giving you the diamonds from the ring he gave her mother. Do you mind me asking, did you ask for his "blessing" in advance? That can often be a stressful (and awesome) moment.
forwardslash  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Thanks! Well, I did say they were from her late father, so no I didn't ask him :P My mom was wanting me to ask her mother for her blessing but to be honest I don't like that tradition at all. I'm reminded of a scene from the first episode of Alias where Sydney's boyfriend calls her father to ask her for approval to marry her:

Danny: Sir, I love your daughter and I want to marry her. That's why I'm calling.

Jack: First of all, Danny, the truth is this is just a courtesy call. Like when you say to your neighbor, "We're having a loud party on Saturday night if that's all right with you." What you really mean is, "We're having a loud party on Saturday night."

Perhaps it's just my rebellion against my conservative background, but I want to separate myself as much as possible from traditions that imply that my fiancée is something to be given away. I know that asking them for their blessing isn't necessarily the same thing as asking permission to marry her, it's just something I'm weird about.

thenewgreen  ·  4655 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Well, I did say they were from her late father -I'm sorry forwardslash, I can't believe I missed that. I love the quote... "What you really mean is, "We're having a loud party on Saturday night." -So true. While I agree that I would have married my wife regardless of her fathers take, in my situation it had less to do with him giving approval and more to do with me setting him at ease. He and I were well acquainted and I essentially knew that he would be excited about the news. I had expected him to give a quick, "congratulations" but it ended up being about a 1 hour conversation. He asked me questions about my goals in life, if I wanted a family and how I planned to provide for that family. Then after I satisfied his questions, he said "congrats son" and slapped me on the back. It was a cool moment.

He didn't feel he was "giving her away" as much as he felt that he was saying to both her and I, "this guys good, he'll be a good partner for you, you have my thumbs up". Trust me, my wife belongs to no person. She is as independent and capable as human beings come.

As a father of a daughter, I would someday hope (and perhaps expect) that the man she choses to marry will extend me the same courtesy. I would likely ask him very similar questions that my father in law asked. Hopefully, like me and my father in law, we will have a close relationship.

thenewgreen  ·  4656 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Good luck pal and a preemptive congrats. She's cool.
ecib  ·  4656 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Thanks :)

Just can't get over that picture. We were just looking at that same view and there you are in it, haha.

thenewgreen  ·  4656 days ago  ·  link  ·  
It's the classic "Machu Picchu picture. The mountain you are looking at is actually called Huayna Picchu or young mountain http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Huayna_Picchu

This is my favorite picture from the trip. Me and my gal: http://i.imgur.com/a9NJr.jpg