Can you clarify on how BDSM is not "hurting someone"? I'll definitely give that it's not non-consensually hurting someone. I'll also give that people who are into BDSM are into different things that fall under that umbrella, and not all of them involve physical pain. But I've also read about BDSM practices (and know people who've partaken in them) that involve getting whipped; hanging themselves from the ceiling via hooks inserted in their skin; insertion of needles, often many needles, into the hundreds, into their skin; biting so hard that bruises arise (and I'm sure some people experience broken skin), etc, etc, etc. It is undeniable that these practices cause pain. I'm thinking that your answer may lie in the fact that BDSM is consensual - which is basically the only reason that the treatment of a person in such a manner is okay - but to be honest, I have often struggled with this being the only thing that makes BDSM okay, because after all a cutter for instance is cutting him or herself with consent, but we do not allow that in society regardless.
A couple that does BDSM are not going to be negatively effected in their lives. Heck, they may be positively effected from their kinky sexy times. Pain is a feeling, being hurt is more than pain. A cutter risks killing themselves. It also not really looked well upon based on the whole fact that "cutting" is a very bad way of dealing with negative emotions. Cutting is a sign that something is fucked up and needs fixed. There is a reason it's teens with little emotional control that do "cut".Can you clarify on how BDSM is not "hurting someone"?
It is undeniable that these practices cause pain
because after all a cutter for instance is cutting him or herself with consent, but we do not allow that in society regardless.
Neither of these are accurate statements though. It's common for instance in adult sufferers of bipolar disease. In addition, cutting isn't done with suicide in mind and it doesn't even have to occur on the wrists - thighs, stomach, etc - and with no potential to kill.A cutter risks killing themselves....There is a reason it's teens with little emotional control that do "cut".
I'm sorry? How does that contradict " little emotional control "? It most often does, however. Secondly, there remains risk of infection or death with cutting. BDSM rarely gets to that point AFAIK(which is very little admittedly). You don't have to have suicide in mind to nick an artery, and it's really easy to do when cutting yourself regularly with a knife.Neither of these are accurate statements though.
It's common for instance in adult sufferers of bipolar disease.
In addition, cutting isn't done with suicide in mind and it doesn't even have to occur on the wrists
It negates "teens." I don't think you know enough about BDSM in order to be accurate in your statements. I'm familiar enough with it to know that plenty of it involves breaking the skin, risking as much infection / if not more (another partner = foreign bodily fluids, spit semen whatever, that are full of foreign bacteria).
It's still minor in comparison to cutting.I'm familiar enough with it to know that plenty of it involves breaking the skin, risking as much infection / if not more (another partner = foreign bodily fluids, spit semen whatever, that are full of foreign bacteria).
How? In cutting you are directly cutting yourself, multiple times with a knife blade. You can very easily hit an artery while doing so. A whip, however, is not likely to do so, and will probably leave no more than surface scratches. Secondly, cutting still hints at underlying issues that need to be solved. BDSM does not.