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camarillobrillo  ·  3471 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: At Group Sex Parties, Strict Rules Make for Safe Spaces

    Casual sex for unity! Fuck a stranger for freedom!

What's wrong with that?

Thanks for not shitting everywhere. You write your points well Klein and you sound like you've forgotten more than I've lived but you're thinking very black and white here.

    The folx at these clubs, in these circles, running in these cliques?

    - integrate poorly with society

    - can't get laid without some bizarro ritual like a swingers' club

    - suck at making friends

    - view the "external world" as uniformly hostile

Except

    It's not anonymous. And you’re not necessarily going to get laid. You can go and just have fun and hang out. You don’t have to have sex. In fact, most of them are coming for the community.

Sure, it's not Chuck E Cheese but it's not exactly a porno theater either. How are the people in this club any different from you and me? The real point of these events seem to be more about free expression than free fucking. The sex seems almost secondary to the comfortable atmosphere these people are seeking to indulge a thing they love. It's no more "us" versus "them" than a book club, or an AA meeting, or the Girl Scouts. It's just regular folx discussing what matters most to them in a relaxed, friendly setting. The community is emphasized, the fucking is optional.

While I've never gotten an invitation, I can say I'd jump at the opportunity. What faults could these people possibly have to hide?





kleinbl00  ·  3471 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    How are the people in this club any different from you and me?

They

- integrate poorly with society

- can't get laid without some bizarro ritual like a swingers' club

- suck at making friends

- view the "external world" as uniformly hostile.

    The real point of these events seem to be more about free expression than free fucking.

...been to one?

    The sex seems almost secondary to the comfortable atmosphere these people are seeking to indulge a thing they love.

...been to one?

    It's no more "us" versus "them" than a book club, or an AA meeting, or the Girl Scouts.

...been to one?

    The community is emphasized, the fucking is optional.

Right. So that people such as yourself can read something like this and go "oh, casual sex clubs are just like bridge clubs, only with fucking."

    While I've never gotten an invitation, I can say I'd jump at the opportunity.

Go find one. They're not hard to locate. Be prepared for disappointment.

    What faults could these people possibly have to hide?

In addition to the faults listed above, they also tend to be fuggly. I could have put that nicely, but they tend to be fuggly. They kind of select for fuggly - I've known pretty girls within that community and they either select out due to undue attention or they gravitate into the paid BDSM universe.

I've known four BDSM "models." Three of them dabbled in the swinger community. How many have you known?

I hope this drives home the point without being obnoxious - you're all about the wondrous world of the swingers' club in theory while I'm pretty much down on it in practice.

b_b  ·  3471 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    In addition to the faults listed above, they also tend to be fuggly. I could have put that nicely, but they tend to be fuggly.

I know exactly 0 about this world, and I would guess a million times over that this is a near universal truth. But for the people who are interested, good for them. Fuggy needs love, too, and if you can find a bunch of fuggly to cuddle up with, more power to ya.

iammyownrushmore  ·  3468 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This is, uh, very accurate.