You had a very different experience from myself and JackTheBandit. While I went to a public school, sex for pleasure was not a thing that was talked about in sex ed in 6th grade. The benefits of abstinence and the horrors of STD's were more of the focal points once the basic anatomy was covered. Sex ed was at best a topic treated neutrally and brushed under the carpet until we were all older, and at worst treated in a negative and somewhat severe manner.I started sex ed somewhere around the fifth or sixth grade I think, and I remember the class spending a lot of time focusing on how people can derive pleasure from sex.
Yeah, I was just reading some of the comments- the best I can figure is that I experienced sex ed in a private school setting. My wife and I have this recurrent philosophical debate (and by "philosophical" I mean "loaded with emotional and cultural subtext") about private v. public education- we're about due for another one. I've never thought to bring up the whole messaging independence thing. But I'm willing to bet that her sex ed experience was a lot more along the lines of yours. Then again, it could be even worse at a denominational private school. I dunno.