I agree.

I told lil that he broke up with me the way an 8 year old tells his mother he hates her when he is angry. He broke up with me because he was pissed off and lashing out. I knew even in the moment that he didn't understand the magnitude of what he was doing. It was an extremely immature action, made by someone who's never been in a real relationship before, and thought he could tell me we were broken up to upset me and I guess ultimately "bring me into line."

Well, momma don't play that way. If you break up with me we are done. You have made the decision, the rather serious decision, that you no longer want to be with me. I have no interest in being with someone who's not interested in me and on top of that I have no interest in being with someone who's going to break up with me after a fight instead of discussing it and trying to work through it.

so yeah, bfx, we're completely on the same page. And as for the nickname, he wanted to know why, and then argue with me about why my feelings weren't valid. as i know i said above. so...I left that situation feeling like the breakup maybe didn't need to have come as early as it did, but that itw as coming.