...or, y'know, I've actually been busy with things I've committed to before a girl comes along. I often fill my days in with stuff to do, so I have things to go to (extracurricular activities, sports, social gatherings I really need to go to to keep other relationships alive) or to do most of the time. Not that I wouldn't free time up but the rule sorta sounds like "push everything away for me". I've lost friends before to time-consuming girlfriends. Lots of good rules already posted here. I particularly like thenewgreen's one, didn't remember I had such an aversion to apathy until he pointed it out. One rule of mine not already mentioned is that Life's Just A Ride, and won't you just look at the blueprint! Amazing. I look for someone who gets it, y'know, not just about life but about everything. Not someone who does as told, but the same craving for the why of things as I have. edit: Also, I gave this post the Self-Reflect-Sunday tag. #srs8. “I've just been really busy” means “I'm not that interested in you.”
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- that comment is basically the crux behind my maxim. I understand booking things ahead of time. But if a guy is too busy to hang out for, say, an entire month, either he is constantly scheduled to the gills and probably doesn't have time for a relationship, or he is using busy as an excuse. When genuinely interested, even with a tight schedule, people can find ways to make a little time here or there. You can bring dates to social gatherings, you know. 2) But what my maxim isn't supposed to encourage is "make ALL the time for me." Of course you have a life and events and you shouldn't cancel on those to hang out with a chick. No chick should act like she has the right to all your time. The law actually works even if someone is just legitimately that busy; if one person doesn't like that level of busyness, and the other wants to keep the schedule up, it's an indicator that maybe some basic elements (time together/apart) don't line up. If someone is so busy it makes you feel neglected or question their attachment, maybe you need someone who is more available than that person is going to be. "Not that I wouldn't free time up"