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comment by _refugee_

I wonder if part of it is that OP was keeping it a secret. Of course, I understand why she was keeping it a secret, but it's much harder to use something like this as a "weapon" against someone if they own it. - as she is attempting to do through these articles and so on.

When someone uncovers a secret of yours, they uncover essentially a clear vulnerability. If you simply admit to whatever is thrown at you, and even "own" it - "Yes I did that, so what?" - it is harder for it to be used as a source of attack.





user-inactivated  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She was naive to think it would stay a secret (very!), but:

    When someone uncovers a secret of yours, they uncover essentially a clear vulnerability. If you simply admit to whatever is thrown at you, and even "own" it - "Yes I did that, so what?" - it is harder for it to be used as a source of attack.

...will she be able to get a job?

_refugee_  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She says she doesn't want to work anywhere that wouldn't accept her. Which is also naive. At the end of the day, if you don't have a job, you need to want to work any place that will hire you. I realize this is a pragmatist viewpoint and not everyone will share it and of course there are extremeist exceptions - yes, if you are unemployed, it's still okay to turn down a job at a hypothetical human-sauage-making company - but still.

On the other hand I'm fairly confident that if I had her resume I would be able to put enough spin on her current job(s) that she could keep them on the resume without eyebrows raised. "Actress." Depends on what studio she worked for, how famous the name is, how obvious the name is however. There's always the good old "Various" though.

And also, honestly, if she is not planning on working in film or acting in the future, why put it on her resume anyway - not saying make it a secret, but why advertise? If you get a job, have a discussion with your boss. As long as it's not a public-facing job there really shouldn't be too much problem getting hired. Now, dealing with coworkers who are aware of your career and might make untoward comments - that would be harder.

I think employers are more likely to be impressed with someone who is honest about less-than-ideal past history than someone who, when confronted, attempts to hide it.

user-inactivated  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I agree. It's all about spin and circumstance.