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user-inactivated  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is/are the most complicated emotion(s) you have ever experienced?

So, probably nostalgic melancholy. That's the first thing that popped into my head.

Every once in a while some stimulus, usually a song or a picture, takes me right back to the crazy times I used to have with my crew in high school, or to quiet game nights with Tchaikovsky and my family before we stopped being able to spend time with each other, or just reminds me of some specific moment. Since I'm currently a happy person with an upbeat outlook, these memories don't inspire me to compare my life now with what my life was then, so the feeling is wonderful (which it might not be if my life had gone downhill or something) -- I can smile through the tears, as it were, without too much trouble. But the wonderful memories come with the reminder that I'll never recapture certain moments in my life again, and that's a really strange feeling. Too, there's a certain tendency to revel in the melancholy; an orgiastic indulgence in self-righteous masochism. If I see one old photo that reminds me of a great memory, I'll probably have a look through the rest of the album to encourage the feeling to last. Etc.

They say it's scientifically proven that humans respond more to sad songs than to happy ones -- I believe it. What's complicated about this emotional set is not what I'm actually feeling; it's that the best part in some ways is not remembering the happy memories, rather it's the sadness that comes from knowing they're in the past.

Hope that's a decent enough answer to your great question. I try to stay mostly personality-superficial on hubski, but sometimes a particularly good prompt inspires me to share.





elizabeth  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Even weirder when you're nostalgic of a time you've never lived in :P

user-inactivated  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I can get nostalgia for a time I wasn't alive for, but I can't get this unusual mix of melancholy and nostalgia. Guess it's a bit more sensory-based.

nowaypablo  ·  4043 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Might be your longing, or desire for the qualities of that particular time period as you imagine it.

louderwords  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Pain and ache is buried within the roots of the word "nostalgia"

Give it a google

Descartes  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I love this. It doesn't happen often with things like smells, but when it does, it's amazing. I'll always love the feeling of walking into my parent's house and smelling mum's cooking after I've been away for a long time. It's amazing how the brain holds onto that sort of association.

user-inactivated  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I edited it a couple times, you might reread it if you want.

I also thought I might be over-sharing and then I read your post and decided that, comparatively speaking, I ... wasn't.

Descartes  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ahaha, yes, I think the fact that you responded to the question with beautiful sentimentality and nostalgia, while I responded with masturbation and porn is a good example of the complexity of human emotions.