I agree about asking positive questions. I'm not so sure about this statement:Before we can seek anything, we need to know what it is we should seek, what it would look like if we found it, and what it means if we do or don't find what we're looking for.
Let's say we're looking for "love" - How can we know what it looks like or feels like? How can we know what it means if we do or don't find it. What if we're looking for any abstract noun: peace, happiness, fulfillment?
Reflection and introspection, I suppose. Having a qualitative idea about what it might feel like to be happy or in love or in a general state of peace isn't so difficult. Fulfillment? If we don't know what it might take to satisfy us, then being fulfilled is nonsense and unreachable. Malcontents are people who don't know how to recognize what it is they have.What if we're looking for any abstract noun: peace, happiness, fulfillment?