My intent was only to explain why that particular phrasing sounded shameful, nothing more, and I apologize that it came across that way. I agree, except for one point. 'Give and take' should have no part in the creation of a human life. It should not be a bargaining chip.I also think there's a tangible difference between a hypothetical situation in which one isn't sure they want kids at all, never bothered to communicate this to their SO, presumably never bothered sounding out SO's stance, and just kind of goes along with it without exploring their own desires; and a real-world example where one knew they wanted kids but didn't know exactly when, knew their partner wanted kids earlier rather than later and validated this view, and decided that, in the absence of any immediate and disqualifying personal goals, might as well take the plunge despite lingering doubts.