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user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 30, 2017

Drawing

A few pieces I’ve done in the past month that I’m at least somewhat pleased with how they came out.

Goat – The cardstock I drew this on was a dark brown and it just didn’t turn out well at all, color wise. That said, I kind of like the cartoonish look.

Triangle Bird Thing – I do everything free hand, obviously, so it’s not perfect, but I tried to get all of the angles to try and mostly match up. The sun, horizon, clouds, etc. It’s not the most amazing picture, but it was a fun experiment.

Man Trapped By a Snake Monster on a Cliff – I made the scales of the snake monster using xs and ys and I tried to make the lighter green scales iridescent by going over the area again with a peach color marker. It worked well at first, but when the markers dried, it lost the iridescent effect. If you’ll look at the clouds, it’s the first time I placed clouds on top of each other instead of making them all distinctly separate. I don’t know if I actually like that.

Lizard – This one was purposely made using all right angles. I got the idea to make it after shitting out this abomination and realizing I could do something much better.

Television

I caught a glimpse of The Thunderbirds while channel surfing the other day. I watched about fifteen minutes of it and I found it oddly charming in a same but different way that I find Kaiju films oddly charming. I see that Hulu has a series for them, so I might give it a half hearted try.

Plea for Social Advice

I have a co-worker who, as a whole, is a very awesome guy. He’s usually extremely upbeat and good hearted, very passionate, and has a way of telling the dumbest stories to make them sound like the most hilarious things ever. More often than not, I enjoy working with the guy.

The problem is, he has some very out there beliefs, including ancient aliens, secret societies, and the like. Some of it is your usual fare. Some of it is stuff I’ve never heard before, like The Saraha and Mojave Deserts are the disastrous results of early man trying to bio-engineer crops. He asks for my opinion on things, a lot and it’s often a very weird back and forth where I tell him what I think, he says that’s interesting, then brings up challenging questions I don’t know the answer to because I don’t think I’ve ever heard the questions because they’re really out there and or non-sensical. As a personal annoyance, he has a tendency to interrupt me mid-sentence to ask me to explain something that I was literally just about to explain if he waited 30 more seconds. Many times, I get frustrated and shut down the conversation by exclaiming “I don’t fucking know! Why the fuck do you always ask me things you know I don’t know the answer to?”

It’s not always all bad. This past week, we had a good long conversation about our government’s separation of powers and how the world is really pretty much too complex for any global secret society to really exist. Not a really fruitful conversation, because I don’t think I swayed his opinion at all, but I didn’t get all frustrated at him either, so I call it a win.

Heres my dilemma. I don’t want to have these conversations anymore. The subject matter is often weird and makes me uncomfortable. Even though I don’t sway his opinion at all, he seems to hold my opinion in high regard and I don’t know a lot about these things and I’m uncomfortable with him viewing me as a reliable source to gauge his ideas against. I’m tired of getting angry of question after question and interruption after interruption. I want to tell him these things and that I don’t like these conversations but I honestly don’t know how, in any sense of the way, to do it without risking belittling him or hurting his feelings or being dismissive in any way. Like I said, I like the guy. He’s genuinely awesome and I respect the shit out of him in general, but I don’t want to risk him thinking I feel otherwise.

So, Hubskiers, any thoughts? At all?





kleinbl00  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

People think Socrates came up with the Socratic Method so that people would learn better. I think he came up with it so he wouldn't have to deal with people constantly asking him questions.

One of the fastest ways to get people to recognize the stupid shit coming out of their own mouths is to make them say it out loud.

user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I like this idea. I think I'm gonna read into this and give it a shot.

_refugee_  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This coworker, is he your peer, superior, or below? Speaking strictly in terms of actual work titles. How does he impact your job at work, speaking strictly in a work-related sense?

Cuz honestly, those answers can play a very real impact on how you should try to handle him.

Edit: Also. Have you tried just agreeing with him? You don't have to actually agree with him. But have you tried just telling him you do? Jw

user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

He's a peer. We both hold the same job title, do the same tasks, etc.

_refugee_  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

see edit but basically, in this sort of scenario, I do wonder how much it would hurt just to agree with him.

My book club always had waaaay better conversations when everyone disagreed or had different opinions. We found that it was harder to talk about novels we were all in agreement on. Hmm?

user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If I'm being brutally, brutally honest. I think agreeing with him would hurt my image with my other co-workers because I know some make fun of him for believing in this stuff (to be fair, we all poke fun at eachother for various things, from height to enjoying professional wrestling to playing too many video games) and I don't want to be thought of as someone who believes in that stuff too. At the same time, and this is part of the reason why I find the conversations so weird and uncomfortable, is that I find the ideas so against reasonableness that I find them distasteful to say the least. I feel like agreeing with him just to placate him as wrong.

kleinbl00

oyster  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Have you tried just saying "cool" and changing the subject ? You aren't going to change that type of persons opinion, they probably need to believe in the crap for some weird reason. You might have dug yourself in too deep for this trick though since you've engaged him in the conversations before.

user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think if the socratic method won't work, I'll just start trying to change and/or ignore the subject. I'll have to figure out a way to do it politely.