Can your first love be your only love these days? I'm wondering if i'm being too naive when I think about my boyfriend and me. He's my first boyfriend and the only person i've ever loved. Sometimes I think I'll spend my life with him. But then I look at the satistics and at everyone else around me and it seems very unlikely. It's almost like "the first love" now is more about getting that learning experience and getting your heart broken so that when you find the right person, you know how to act. I hope my first love will also be my last love, but only time will tell. I wonder what my ansewer to this question will be in 10 years. Will I be laughing at how naive I was or will I be feeling lucky we're a bit of an exeption to the rules?
It is good enough and I appreciate it. But that's how every couple felt at some point. There's a point before breaking up that you realise you don't have everything you need. I'm just hoping that moment never comes. I just felt a bit silly when I started typing up my response first and I sounded a lot like my niece when she declares she will marry some guy in her class (She's in primary school FYI). She might believe it when she says it, but everyone around her just knows she's being naive and laught it off because we all know she'll realise the truth in a week.
I don't have a lot of advice on how to make a relationship work, but I have a lot of advice on how to destroy them, as I'm pretty experienced in that regard. Firstly, you're never going to be excited to be around one person all the time. The problem is that doesn't meet everyone's fantasy and they jump ship. It's easier than sticking it out. That's bullshit. Are you excited to see your family all the time? Probably not, but you love them in a way that's well beyond infatuation. Second, if your partner isn't meeting your expectations about some issue, bring it up to them. It's shitty to have to have talks like that but it cleans the wound. Otherwise, you'll end up with the relationship equivalent of a trench boil, and it will puss all over you. Been there. Not fun. Lastly, if you really think of someone as a long term partner, think about what that means to you. Practical things aren't sexy at all (what are my career goals? do I want children? etc), but it's a lot easier to sort that shit out earlier rather than waiting a few years to find out that you aren't on the same page.