I'd rather have the comment than a(nother) badge -- the thread's having the same effect on me, though for rather different reasons and at a totally different stage of life (although I too do have a big nose). I've always been better at other people's relationships than my own, but I'm at a weird place in life where I'm in a relationship, I'm happy, I'm fond of him, but I'm not in love and I don't know if I'll get there, even though I could see myself raising adopted kids with him very happily. I'm not sure how I'll act on the thoughts that have come up as part of this thread, but I don't feel like I need to know that to be happy and hopeful while reading these comments. If so many different people with different wants feel so much, I'm sure that I have felt all these things--even though I can't remember them in the "feel it again" sense now--and that I will in the future.