It's something that can be overcome. Porn portrays sex as something that it generally isn't, and makes it very much based on domination or various fantasies. Sex -in a relationship- is much more about the feeling of love, trust, and oneness between the two partners. It is a big adjustment to move over from porn and having sex just to get off, to having it as an experienced to be shared. If you're worried about the impact on your sexuality, I would advise doing what the author of the article did. Try to "unlearn" your sexuality, stop watching porn for an extended period of time. You could even go as far as not masturbating for a period of time as well to truly start anew.
We'll see what happens. Having not met anybody who I've had romantic interest in (there has to be a better way to phrase that), it's difficult to meet those criteria. I love the idea of being interested in somebody, emotionally and physically or what have you, but I haven't actually been interested in anybody. I honestly don't masturbate that often, though what I do to get off still seems relevant. Part of me is resigned to accepting how I am, but I would very much like it to be different. I should probably talk to people besides strangers about it. I do appreciate that sex in the real world is optimally not very similar to how it is portrayed. As a high schooler, I assmed that somehow by the time I was in college, I would want and have one night stands or what have you, the whole idea of casual sex bothered me before high school, and the idea that that's what the real world was/is like kinda freaked me out. And while I understand that there are people who do that, it's a much more appealing idea to want to share something with another person - it's just not something that I've been able to conceptualize easily because I haven't had any experience in a relationship, etc. I'll stop ranting about myself now.
There's nothing wrong with talking to strangers, while they don't know you personally, at least you know there's no preconceptions that might guide their words. That said, as for having it be different, maybe it is something you need to talk about to somebody you know personally. I would encourage you to try to change it if that's what you want, it's better to try something if you feel you might regret not doing so. I have never been a person to want to have a one night stand as well. I don't have any problems with casual sex, but I prefer for there to be some deeper meaning behind it. There are many people that feel the same way you do, probably as many as are for casual sex and one night stands.
Thanks. Fortunately I have a few friends I feel comfortable talking about it with, and it does feel good to put it in words, both to people I know and that I don't. Not being a psychologist or anything of the like, I do wonder how our past choices and behaviors affect our personalities or behaviors now - in a way I'm trying to see if there are things I've done that have, in their own small ways, influenced my lack of interest in sex and romance. In general I don't think it's a problem to live without those two, but I find the idea of sex and romance to be appealing, even if I don't outwardly want it. It's like enjoying an apple, but never being hungry for one - only I've never had an apple, in this case. For people who have had sex, I wonder how their fantasies of and outlook on sex has changed. It's hard (for me) to really fantasize about a shared experience when I don't know what that'd be like. For others it might be easy, even if what we imagine sex is like before having it is totally different than what it's actually like. Hell if I know. These types of questions are harder for me to bring up in person, I suppose because they have a taboo nature about them, where it's easier to talk about on anonymously on the internet.