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comment by viTRiOLL

When I was 20 people gave me all kinds of great advice. I wish I had understood how important it was to actually listen to it and act upon it.

In did all right in life, but I think I could be in an even better place if I had worked harder and been more focused when I was younger. I certainly should have listened when people told me to take care of my body. Of course, I was indestructible at the time, but here I am at just 46 a type 2 diabetic, with bad teeth and a constant ringing in my ears. Just an ounce of prevention really is a pound of cure.

Also, tell the people in your life that you love them and either forgive or track down and confront your bullies - especially if you are like me and tend to stew about things like that...

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Currently 20. It's difficult to focus at this age. There are so many stimuli to catch our attention, it's hard to focus and work hard toward anything. It does take a lot of determination at this age.

Taking care of my body is definitely something I neglect. I'll totally keep this into consideration. You may have just convinced me to stop smoking.

I try to do this as much as I can. I tell my mother I love her all the time. Thanks for your post.

viTRiOLL  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Seriously, take care of your body. I was a strapping young guy who was never sick and who could shrug off anything. I spent 25 years riding some of the fastest motorcycles on the planet, shooting assault rifles for fun, blasting heavy metal as loud as it would go and working in the engine rooms of ships for 5 years as a merchant mariner. I had a great time.

The funny thing is I could have still done it all and not felt a single ill effect if I had just been smarter. I could have brushed after meals, I could have used my hearing protection every time, I cold have eaten better and taken a little better care of myself. But seriously, I was indestructible. The worst part is, people really did warn me, I was just too stupid to listen.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

But come to think of it, if you took those precautions, would you have enjoyed those experiences as much as you did? Sure, the brushing issue is a no brainer, but isn't there something to be said for living in the moment without a care in the world?

viTRiOLL  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You can still do dangerous things, the trick is to not let yourself be stupid about it and realize that you aren't invulnerable.

I used to watch the Armed Forces TV network all the time when. I was overseas and they always showed the commercials that talked abut Congressional Medal of Honor winners. There was one I hated. It was about how this young soldier in WW I took off his task mask and gave it to someone else during a mustard gas attack and ended up dying after the battle, He gave his life up for another guy, right?

Wrong. I used to be that guy. He thought nothing would ever get him. He took his gas mask off because he didn't need it and he thought someone else did. Like I said, I was that guy, I was foolish and took risks with y body I probably shouldn't have. I'm lucky to be paying the price a little at a time sitting here with both ears ringing in different tones. But at least they are in tune...

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think there's a difference in doing something risky for the thrill of it, and doing it for the sake of helping others. If the scenario you posted was done because he thought he was invincible, then yeah, that's stupid. But if it was done with the mentality of saving another, I'd say that's heroic.

Again, and I'm not trying to be stubborn/naive/immature, but isn't that preoccupation with 'not letting yourself be stupid about it' contradictory with the dangerous aspect of an activity?

viTRiOLL  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

One is reckless the other is not. People will make excuses about being caught up in the moment etc, but if they really understood what was on the line, most of them wouldn't do it at all.

The thing about risk is hat you need to approach it systematically. I didn't jump on the back of an 1100 CC sport bike my first time out. I worked up to it, got good and when I got the bike I went in with both eyes open. That's what really takes guts, by the way, it's knowing what can happen and doing it anyhow.

That's my point about the guy, too. He could have looked out for himself and still got those guys to safety - just like the oxygen mask on the airplane, yous first and then someone else's. If you go down, the other person is going down anyhow. You can help more people by taking care of yourself and then helping.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think we're getting into a different discussion here. I believe I'd sacrifice my own life in order to save another. But I have no idea, I've never been in that circumstance.

Ah, I see your point. Good analogy with the airplane mask. I agree with you on this part. And while I can see that it was reckless now, it still seems heroic to me. At least to some extent.

viTRiOLL  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It took a lot of balls either way.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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thefoundation  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm 20 as well. I like hearing about all of this. I feel like I'm on a good track. What I do is always look on the bright side, laugh a lot, think a lot, take time to appreciate the smallest things. My mental health is the most important thing to me