Maybe there's stigma where you are about men having problems in their relationships. It's not stigma I'm familiar with, and it's not stigma that should be allowed to stand. Either way, good on you for sharing.

Now keep it going.

It takes bravery to say "I need help." But saying "I need help from YOU" is the fastest way you can strengthen any friendship. Your friends that are at arm's length? They need to be made to understand that witnessing the conflict is what friends do, and that doing so isn't taking part.

They sound like cowards. That means you need to remind them to fucking sack up.

I know how hard it is for you to depend on other people. That makes it count more. Make it clear you don't need them to fix anything, or even have an opinion - you just need them to recognize your humanity, recognize your hurt and not fucking shun you for not being the life of the party at the moment.

So many people these days have no fucking idea how to be friends and then they look around and wonder why they don't have any. It makes leading by example especially powerful. "Hey. You. I need your help. Don't turn your back on me, just let me talk because by walling me off you're making this worse."