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oyster  ·  2269 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why Women Smile At The Men Who Sexually Harass Them

When we had to take self defense back in school the people who've got the experience with this stuff teach us to yell "fire" if we need help because people won't step in if you yell you're being assaulted. They teach women this pessimism from a young age.





Relevant_Anxiety  ·  1206 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My father taught me the same thing as a kid. No idea if it's actually true but it's sad that it's even something that we could consider believable.

Relevant_Anxiety  ·  1206 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My father taught me the same thing as a kid. No idea if it's actually true but it's sad that it's even something that we could consider believable.

o11c  ·  2268 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've heard that, but I assume that's mainly from hearing-only distance, not once there is visual contact with the assault.

oyster  ·  2268 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You would be surprised, people often look out for themselves and try to avoid conflict. It might seem weird to rationalize not stepping in but people will do it if it means protecting themselves. Even if they think they wouldn't.