I think you have a good head on your shoulders, and you should give yourself some credit. There are others who would admit to being smart, although they did not have any answers at all. I am glad to hear that there are some good things going on in your life. I am also glad to hear that the resolution you made has been helping you. For me, making those kind of resolutions makes them short lived and burn out fast. Here is what I ask when I think of how unimportant I am, maybe it will help you: Did I help someone who needed it recently? Because that's all it takes. Really that's it! If you ever feel unimportant do a small favor for someone. Helping others is a great way to realize your own potential. It doesn't have to be in a soup kitchen or money to a stranger. It can be as simple as helping a friend move, or helping your mom or dad clean the house. That is the important stuff. Those are REAL accomplishments. Here is one of my favorite quotes from Amy Poehler's "Yes, please" which I think might help your position: "Yes, please" really is a secret code that unlocks doors. Go ahead and try it. If it doesn't work, all you've lost was a couple of "No thank yous". Keep making posts and updating your progress I'd be happy to follow along! “It’s called Yes Please because it is the constant struggle and often the right answer. Can we figure out what we want, ask for it, and stop talking? Yes please. Is being vulnerable a power position? Yes please. Am I allowed to take up space? Yes please. Would you like to be left alone? Yes please. I love saying “yes” and I love saying “please.” Saying “yes” doesn’t mean I don’t know how to say no, and saying “please” doesn’t mean I am waiting for permission. “Yes please” sounds powerful and concise. It’s a response and a request. It is not about being a good girl; it is about being a real woman. It’s also a title I can tell my kids. I like when they say “Yes please” because most people are rude and nice manners are the secret keys to the universe.”
That's a really good advice. I should keep that in mind: a friend of mine might need it soon enough; maybe I might, too. As for New Year resolutions, I think you might find interesting what I've said about it in my blog. It easily applies to any moment in your life, as a matter of fact, as long as it excites you emotionally in some way. You know, it's funny how I caught myself thinking "Nah, my own hashtag wouldn't work" after reading your last sentence. Why not? Am I so much worse than, say, lil who has her own #thestateoflil (I think it is)? So - yeah, maybe I'll go for it, if I have something to talk about. I'll shout out to you if there's something interesting to look at. Thanks for cheering me up, pal. I appreciate it.
I realized at one point that there is no dignity and no achievement in complaining about reality never being perfect (which is what people believe to be "good enough" often enough). By pointing out how bad it is without producing a solution, I encourage others to do the same. This is not how we go forward as human beings or as humanity whole. Hell, it's not even that bad! "Oh, it never works" - but the idea does! It's the application that sucks, and it just happens to be something we're capable of improving. We measure our lives from a certain standpoint, when it really has to be measured from zero; from nothing. Compared to that: - we have food production and delivery system capable of sustaining billions of people; - most of us have clean water piped in and shit piped out without leaving stains or requiring work; - we have portable computers capable of introducing us to virtual realities on the fly and the international network to share our thoughts - and other important information - through. Isn't that bloody amazing? This is what we better remember at times when things seem dull. This coming from a life-long cynic and pessimist should tell you something.the cynicism of "Well nothing will ever be good enough, so I can't do anything"