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Fallexe  ·  1155 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why people are terrible

I disagree that people are terrible. Internet publicity introduces a selection bias because the Internet, and especially social media, make relatively uncommon acts of stupidity, hate, or plain terribleness visible to everyone.

Internet publicity can also make uncommon acts of love, intelligence, or beauty visible.

My personal choice is to place myself in internet communities that emphasize the positive aspects of people rather than the negative aspects. Because of this choice, I've come to have a more positive view of people.

Now a days I only visit Facebook to run my client's ad campaigns...




randomuser  ·  1155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    My personal choice is to place myself in internet communities that emphasize the positive aspects of people rather than the negative aspects. Because of this choice, I've come to have a more positive view of people.

This is what I keep quoting in everyone's posts. Because I do the same. I surround myself with the people I find that are amazing and valuable. But it's choice and also sort I limiting I guess is my point. It would be awesome if you didn't have only a few/several good people, you've found over your life. It would be cool if everyone was that good, I think.

Fallexe  ·  1155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Even people with obnoxious views (sexist, racist) aren't terrible; sexism and racism are usually a result of history and social norms not personal choice. Gently planting anti-sexist ideas in a non-confrontational way allows you to have a positive relationship with such a person without ignoring the negative aspects.

The platform matters as well. Facebook is designed in such a way that self-promoters and low-brow content fill the news feed.

randomuser  ·  1155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, I guess my point is that the norms are terrible. That we, as a people, should be better communally than we are. Like, why is there still so much intolerance when we know better? It makes us look stupid. Our portion of history will be when technology developed the fastest and people stagnated, and none of out technology will be around to be in museums because we are a culture that's very much into planned obsolescence, and everything falls apart in 5 years.

yourstruly  ·  1155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    My personal choice is to place myself in internet communities that emphasize the positive aspects of people

Can I ask what communities these are? I've been looking to switch up the places I go online for this reason.

Fallexe  ·  1155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hubski obviously.

Most forums have boards that have a positive vibe (well except voat...). Reddit has places, 8chan has places, heck I even used to hang out in a chatroom on Kongregate a few years back with some really cool people, albeit with the occasional troll...

IRC is also great place to meet people, just have to find the right group.

If you like to code, certain open source projects have a positive culture.

EDIT: how could I forget the wonderful people at Simtropolis? Haven't been there in a few years... but still

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