This is really interesting to read and reflect on. Honestly, I'm not sure these values are particular to Pixar, so much as they are an "America in general" thing. Also, this was striking: I don't think the fact that the move is treated as Riley's burden is all about capitalism per se; it's about the fact that adults in our culture don't generally take children's interests into account, or consider their problems important. It's always "they'll get over it," even when something is making a child very unhappy. Although he causes all this, and at no small cost to his daughter’s mental health, Riley’s dad is not depicted as a villain. He loves his family, they love him, and together they work through the deprivations caused by the move. The narrative does nothing to condemn this state of affairs; indeed, it is Riley’s burden to accept them.
Part of the problem is that kids aren't really viewed as people in this country. Children have different rights than adults (albeit understandingly so as they don't have the mental or physical faculties to take care of themselves). And yes a lot of parents don't or can't take their kids feelings into account in in some of these situations. Hell, even in the restaurant people don't count kids as people. People make reservations all the time for 15 people and don't count the 8 small children who need highchairs, boosters or slings regardless of the amount of space and effort they take up. We view children as half of a person instead of a living breathing entity sometimes and this makes it harder to take how they feel about something seriously. It's actually kinda sad...