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pushka  ·  3445 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why are you so angry?

I heard about this in regards to religion and people's interaction when religion is on topic.

It seems that the default state for being part of a religion, (or I suppose political party) - is that there is a tiny minority which is the adult/dictator - and everyone else is the studious child - nodding and agreeing. There is never (at least from my experience) - any adult to adult interaction, because by definition, the main subject (preacher, person discussing and considering from their own perspective) - has the supreme authority on behalf of the deity, and so they are at the top, and others who are learning from them or arguing with them aren't as enlightened as ones-self.

If a religious person with actual belief in the book are talking to a non-believer or person of other religion - then they are the adult and the other is an ignorant child, a child acting like an adult, which needs to be shut down without angering them (from their perspective)

If two peers are discussing - then they either have the same belief, and so are both children to the belief or acting as an adult in tandem and everyone else is the child; or if they have differing beliefs, then they are adult-child, and may switch roles at times through the conversation.

Thoughts? these are my feelings and experiences~





amouseinmyhouse  ·  3445 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think the theory is good for simplifying complex structures for quick understanding, but I also have some personal issue with broad statements that encompass whole groups saying - they are this way.

I do agree that the default stance in classical religion can be the parent/child (even to the point for forcing everyone to call the man up front "father") but I don't think that's a default state of religion. In my personal experience I've met adult/adult with holy men and felt respected as a peer. On the other hand, I do stray away from a lot of the organized aspects of religion because of their implicit power structure.

pushka  ·  3445 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd hope to never say anything about large groups of people; I'm only one person with one life's worth of experience and my perspective - and I'm always open to having my views changed, or holding more than one contradicting view at the same time, but this is just my thinking..

It's true that when I say "religion" - simply because of my super-conservative fundamentalist Seventh-day Adventist Christian early life, I automatically sway towards considering organised traditional monotheism..

And I have a bias because I was a teacher and church leader and so I feel like I can see inside the minds, hidden intentions, lies, manipulation and double-think of 'religious' people even though I suppose it's possible that I was an anomaly and I /don't/ know what's going on in other's heads..

user-inactivated  ·  3445 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Your comment made me think of a pdf I recently came across (through Hubski, Reddit? Not sure), called "The Authoritarians"

http://members.shaw.ca/jeanaltemeyer/drbob/TheAuthoritarians.pdf

You might be interested, it talks about some of the things you mentioned.

pushka  ·  3445 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'll add it to gBooks ~ thanks for sharing ~ n__n