Uh-oh. Get out while you still can! A thousand alarm bells should have been ringing in your head when she said that. Once you're married, she has all the power in the relationship (because of how the law favours wives), and she probably knows that. The fact that she's pressuring you into proposing means that she doesn't have your best interest in mind. She's the one being selfish, not you. You're being manipulated into feeling guilty for not letting another person's desires dictate what is perhaps the biggest decision of your life. Here's something you might want to ask yourself: can I trust this woman enough to put my life in her hands? Would she threaten me with divorce if I refused to do what she told me? Why is she trying to push me in a certain direction against my will? She disagrees and argues that it is it not worth any effort or time on her side if I won't commit to unconditionally before trying to trying to fix things.