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War  ·  1611 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Helicopter parenting is increasingly correlated with college-age depression and anxiety.

    One kid’s father threatened to divorce her mother if the daughter didn’t major in economics.

What?

On topic though this was definitely interesting to read and analyze my own upbringing. My parents were definitely helicopter parents until around 6th or 7th grade at which point they stopped almost cold turkey. It was a weird transition from having your parent check your homework thoroughly everyday to have them simply ask if it was done. Remembering back I'm sure that affected me because I have some deep seeded fears about the future of my life. There was another article posted about how punishment for children wasn't an effective method of handling children with behavioral problems. I think the main connection between these two pieces is we really have to start treating our children a little more like capable adults. I'm not saying they are anywhere near as capable as adults, but they have the ability to express concerns and do things on their own. I think this image that kids are these vulnerable dandelions who will collapse when one strong gust rolls in isn't the right way to approach it.





ripemango  ·  1610 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    One kid’s father threatened to divorce her mother if the daughter didn’t major in economics.
maybe he was already thinking about the divorce and wanted an excuse?
War  ·  1610 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What I don't get is how you place a burden like that on your own child. You are effectively scarring them in an unimaginable way.

War  ·  1610 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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