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veen · 3228 days ago · link · · parent · post: 15th Irregular Occasional Give a Quote from Your Recent Reading
There is a difference between deliberation and control. Control is the ability to change - deliberation comes from the desire to change. If you have some control over a situation, you can deliberately go in the preferred direction. You can be a deliberate person but not have control of the situation. Or have control but no deliberation. It reminds me of the Serenity Prayer: accept what you cannot change, have the courage to change what you can and have the wisdom to know the difference. What I think she is trying to say is that regardless of whether you can, you shouldn't try to control everything. That doesn't mean you can't be deliberate - just leave some room for the unexpected, for change.