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Cumol  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 29, 2014

How old are you if I might ask?





arguewithatree  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

22. i'll be 23 in march.

Cumol  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What of your actions do your parents consider as "not being an adult"?

arguewithatree  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

i'm very much throwing myself into my career and my grad studies which in turn makes me less responsive to other people. i sense a work-life balance lecture coming very soon from then. i think it's just a difference in values.

edit: we've also been butting heads on religion and family values a bit recently. so there's that.

Cumol  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I can partly relate to the religion/family values part. I am an ex-Muslim. And it would break my fathers heart to hear me say that I don't believe in God and think that Islam and other religions are a hoax. After much trouble with that, I decided to keep some things to my self.

In some cases it's better to go your own way I guess.

About the work-life balance I was expecting the situation to be the opposite. You partying too much and not taking things serious (which was the accusation of my parents. In my case it was partially true and I later realized that I needed to figure that out for myself.

In your case I would say that you should try to adjust yourself. I think that at some point you will feel that there is something missing in your life (human interaction) and try to adjust.

Don't forget that your parents only want the best for you. They want to give you advice that is based on their experience and you should listen to it. But in the end, you should go your own way, because that's how we evolve :)

arguewithatree  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yep. Same but Jews. Add a healthy dose of Reform Judaism's Zionism Lite and you have my situation.

I take shit way too seriously. I think it's making me very fragile, especially emotionally. I've cried twice in the past 2 or 3 months over not thinking my work was good enough. I'm waiting for the gray hairs hahaha. I get out some but probably not as much as I should or as much as others might like.

Cumol  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What about any outdoor hobbies? I like going for runs. Not because I want to get fit (a nice addition) but mainly because I feel awesome afterwards.

arguewithatree  ·  3747 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I live in a major city so I do a lot of foot travel during the week. i'm also lucky that my office has good natural light. i lift weights to keep fit but that's inside and usually at night.