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havires  ·  2803 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: September 17, 2014

    street people

What exactly are "street people"?

_refugee_  ·  2803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

People who are out on the street attempting to talk to me

More points if they are standing around and not going anywhere and more more points if they are not smoking a cigarette

Total avoidance points jackpot if they are trying to hit on me

But if you are a small child with no visible parent then exception ____________________________________________ For the record, I'm a petite female. I generally do not feel safe if a stranger in a city approaches me; at minimum I am wary they are selling me something or trying to bum a cigarette and the unease grows from there. I feel less safe if I am approached by a strange man. If a man approaches me on the street 99 times out of 100 he is in some way attempting to hit on me/is approaching me solely because he finds me attractive. This is not a reflection on what I look like besides that I am small and slender; I'm not Hedy LaMarr.

Within the past week a man honked at me twice to get my attention. I'd ignored him the first time and apparently giving me an OK sign was just so important that he couldn't let it go. Guys working on a storefront have yelled at me repeatedly because I refused to acknowledge them. Apparently it's more likely I'm deaf than that I'd ignore a catcall.

Guys harass me without approaching me. I am not going to open any opportunities for any more of it. I am going to ignore you if you talk to me on the street until it's very clear that you're talking to me for a legitimate reason.

user-inactivated  ·  2803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

An ex girlfriend was fond of telling people who hit on her in the street that they would look beautiful in a gimp suit and nipple clamps. I was always afraid she'd get someone who would jump at the offer rather than being freaked out one day, but it never happened.

_refugee_  ·  2802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah. I haven't the chutzpah.

onlythelonly  ·  2802 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So, uh. You still got her number?

havires  ·  2803 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ah well that makes sense and those are all valid points.