NO. You have no idea how this person's life will interact with yours in the future. You have no idea WHO THIS PERSON WILL GOSSIP TO about you. Maybe one of her friends will be the HR manager next year that you need to get hired? Or your new boss? Or any of a million scenarios we can come up with. Part of being an adult is learning to deal with the crap of the earth and to stop taking petty sleights seriously. Build your character so that when people talk about you, they talk about your work ethic, your honor and your honesty. As someone who has works with all of the good and bad of humanity, trust me other people know about this woman and what she is like. Don't sink to her level. Be a better person... others WILL notice. It is hard as hell, it is unfair at times, but it works out better for you over the long term.So now I am considering confronting her about how she essentially said I wasn't working hard enough while at the same time, essentially, admitting that the work required for her position (less than two skips and a jump from mine) is too much for her to handle.
Thanks for the advice. I was totally unaware of the ramifications of this potential action and was also completely seriously considering undertaking it. Your insight into this situation, without knowing these people or my relationships with them, is completely invaluable and at least 90% accurate. ___________________________________________ For the record, my boss is not my enemy, although we have some idealogical conflict. She's also not a bad person just because she happens to be a hypocrite. She's a hypocrite because she a) wants me to do the best work I can do and b) can't manage to have a happy family life with her current workload and values her family above her job. Is that really so bad? Does that somehow immediately imply that she is a negative person, someone whose level I would not want to stoop to, prone to workplace gossip and deliberately making my life harder?
I had a suspicion that this might have been venting. People forget how small the world is, so maybe someone else reading that will take pause if they are planning a similar action. I did not realize that came off as adversarial; no offense was intended, and any taken I apologize for.
It's okay, I've edited this like three times now, and I think you're responding to something I've edited out by this point too. I took out the adversarial bits. Your intentions were good. I would make the same choice my boss is making in her situation - I just wouldn't be giving me the advice she is.