The fact that you're framing my response as an 'us vs them' is exactly what I mean. The point is that men also suffer inequities in society, but these are not addressed by feminism except where the feminist movement deems it to also be beneficial to women. The travesty is that feminism started framing the conversation as 'us vs them', and the MRA continued it. feminism didn't use to be anti-male, it used to be simply pro-female. There's a distinct difference there.
I'd give you times, but honestly you should watch the entire thing. These ideas are being espoused by some of the older feminists, they are not simply the opinion of men who dislike feminism. In particular, fairly early in the talk she talks about how she values clarity of thought, logic, and fairness. As do I, and many other people who don't buy into gender feminism. And now it's time for you to start citing sources.