Earlier today I was feeling some sort of way. I was very energetic for a lot of reasons and it manifested itself somewhat chaotically. I'm truly crestfallen to find my attempts to improve your mood came off awkwardly and to find a suggestion on how to listen properly as thanks. I would try to paraphrase how you might be feeling, offer it tentatively for your approval in an effort to make you feel even a little bit understood, and stand back to let you grieve, but because you already know what I'm trying to do it would feel forced. Kind of fake. And I hate fake. Even though I truly am sorry for your loss. And pardon me, I read grammar nazi at first but I see that you wrote nerd. I thought I was just using your words. Here, read this. I hope it helps.
Thanks for the edit and the other edit. Note: anyone coming across this page should know that some items have been edited and deleted, so it might not make too much sense anymore. Note, bbootz - the initial post was a little weird, but I do feel a lot better having had this conversation with you. I appreciate the other comments as well. Notice I deleted my stupid suggestion to read something. I also love the idea of sudden sofa humping. There's lots of interesting points in the link you sent, including this: There's no funeral - just a wake tomorrow. I'll be going and I'll be keeping the article you sent in mind. thxThere is no shortcut to mourning, the shortcut leads to madness. When you subvert the system and offer a mourner a shortcut, you are leading them to madness.