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comment by PeterC
PeterC  ·  3719 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Buddies

It is really cool. I remember when I came in with the Reddit wave almost 4 months ago, there was some confusion over what would happen to the site. You all had experienced influxes historically, but each time it was like sifting wheat and chaff, almost like natural selection. Instead, I thought we - I almost typed "you all" - might take a more constructive approach to newcomers. Not leading them through the motions in a rigid, formulated "system" but in a style that really cultivates and encourages input.

People like to be heard and people like to be acknowledged for their ideas. It's important to feel important. But I think it's decisive for an "inductee" or a new member to turn from that type of thinking to really get to the heart of Hubski. The switch needs to be made from "What can I say?" to "What would someone else think of this?". That's the core of a functioning community like Hubski, and something theadvancedapes pointed out in his reply. I think people won't naturally make that shift until they really respect someone's opinion here, and that's where the friend comes in, although that might be a misnomer.

Regardless, it's kind of a nebulous idea still, and I'm having a hard time putting it together.