I didn't see the shout-out, not sure why, but I have taken measures to make it less likely that I will miss your future comments. I will also wonder aloud if I might be referred to as "the wasoxygen" in future or if I have to be as knowledgable and eloquent as theadvancedapes to earn that distinction. Dan Savage makes some good points, though I haven't read the whole article. Your blog was better (and agreeably shorter), and I think your husband makes an excellent reply. That reply reminds me of one of the most memorable things I have read on the subject, though it came from someone who had ideas about women that are jarring to the modern ear: #427 in that chapter is also worth a look.406 Marriage as a long conversation. When entering a marriage, one should ask the question: do you think you will be able to have good conversations with this woman right into old age? Everything else in marriage transitory, but most of the time in interaction is spent in conversation.