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comment by b_b
b_b  ·  4045 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Extinguishing Old Flames

    Call her, go for coffee, find out what she's been up to in the last three years. Nothing removes the burning of an old flame more than seeing them as the human being they actually are.

As a man whose primary hobby seems to be collecting ex girlfriends, I think this is good advice (although, I would recommend going out for a cocktail instead of coffee, because it makes an easier transition just in case things go well). Probably what will happen is you'll fall in love once again, but then after date two or three, you'll realize she's not at all what you remember, and you'll want out. Perfect cure.