You're right. Generally, I think ugly people get treated worse. There was just that article about how more attractive people get promoted more than less attractive ones, and yet people around them don't even realize it. We, as a society, are definitely biased towards attractive people even if we don't realize it or want to be.

What I'm really referring to is the ugly mess of sexual harassment and men taking advantage of women. Of course, women of all appearances experience this, and it's awful.

I think attractive women become targets of very subtle sexual harassment and I think attractive girls, especially if they mature on the early side, often become targets of harassment and even just plain attention long before they are able to realize what is going on, let alone how to handle it. I think it's easy for young girls not to know what is going on or even why and become confused, blaming themselves and their bodies. I think it's possible for their perspectives to become so warped they don't find themselves attractive or understand why others do. I guess part of what I'm talking about is men/boys hitting on girls long before they're ready, and call me wrong if you think I am, but I think more attractive girls experience this more. And I think it can really screw a young girl up, especially if she doesn't know why it's happening, especially if she turns it against herself.

No matter what kleinbl00's daughter looks like she will have beautiful qualities and she should know that and be told that. She should never feel bad for the way she looks, regardless of how attractive she is by common standards.

My opinions about how girls should feel and be raised are complex and not well put into words. I would have a lot of sorting out to do before I felt I could approach raising one well. Best, best, best of luck to kleinbl00. Make her feel valued and loved and I think you'll have a great foundation.

Kids fuck up. They always do. You've just gotta be there to help them bounce back.