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Quatrarius  ·  646 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is a Woman, Anyway?  ·  x 2

"If so, then why does a person assigned at birth as a male but who identifies as a female need to remove the penis? Why does a person assigned at birth as a female but who identifies as a male need to add a penis? If a “woman” or a “man” is whatever anyone claims as their identity based on internal beliefs and feelings instead of external equipment—as one online influencer told Walsh, “Some people are boys, some people are girls, some are both, some are neither. Gender is all about how you feel on the inside and how you express yourself.”—then why would anyone put themselves through the ordeal of transitioning?"

what a lack of understanding of the motivations behind transitioning, of the concept of dysphoria / struggling with the stark contrast between self-perception and appearances / the way you're treated. why would a skinny teen with dreams of becoming a bodybuilder ever want to exercise and build muscle? why would a married woman who wants to have an affair take off her wedding ring at a bar? this is the crucial misunderstanding that so many people fail to even realize they're making - to be a woman is to be treated like a woman, to be a man is to be treated like a man. we define what it is to be a particular gender through our behavior and our expectations, not through some collection of meat. why is a graceful ship on the water called she? why is a deeply pitched computer generated voice perceived as a man's? because we associate these characteristics to them. why is a mother-in-law a go-to person that comedians joke about not wanting to talk to? all it is is the mother of your spouse, there's nothing inherently bad about that, right?

the entire trans "debate" relies on the confusion between what is real and what is bestowed on real things by our behavior. sure, you can say that a woman is a vaginahaver and a man is a penishaver - but are you gonna say to little David "hold on, sport, let's see your cock before you can go play with the boys"? no - you hear the name, you see the clothes, you perceive all the things that we associate with the category "boy", and you let him play and live his life

but not for long! if these trannytrackers win the """"debate"""", soon we will all be reduced to meat

_refugee_  ·  3569 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Does keeping your mouth shut make you weak?  ·  

It comes from the pablo, that's all.

As for passive aggressive, I don't know. Stupidity enrages me. Let me rephrase that. What I perceive to be stupidity enrages me. It enrages me because I feel like it is a waste of my time.

I like to get into people's faces about their stupidity on Facebook because I believe, in a way, that quietly unfriending them because of their opinions is almost like tacit compliance. "I don't like what you're saying but I'm not going to confront you about it." I guess that is where I draw my line about being a pussy.

If you waste my time by being an idiot, yes, I am going to tell you about it. I am going to call you out on it. I want to become that person that you don't want to be friends with because I no longer want to be friends with you. And because said person has already wasted so much of my time by publicly being an idiot, I want them to know it, and I want them to do the work of removing me because I have already spent so much time sifting through their idiocy that I'm not going to just passively go to their page and let them "off the hook" as it were. I am going to flame them the fuck out.

I think it is more accurate to call my behavior actively aggressive. When I make them unfriend me on Facebook I am very blatant about it.

And, just so everyone doesn't go around thinking I'm a giant douche to my facebook friends all the time, this has happened about 3 times in my life, mmkay?

Now I am going to pause and consider all of the pejorative words used in this thread - i.e., "pussy" and "douche" ("douche" was nearly "prick" or "dick" but i rethought it) quietly, alone, and to myself, without judgement.

P.S. to buying me a hug, ah, well, somehow I keep finding these winners, you know what I mean? Some quiet non-judgmental reflection would be well-served there except I can't ever seem to get to the end of that particular problem. And no, I'm not going to ask hubski or kleinbl00, because the answer is very likely, "It's something about you you need to change," and other people might be able to very accurately say that and cut me with it (but not in a bad way, necessarily) but I don't think I'm going to be able to change it until I suss it out and conclude it myself. And accept said conclusion.