That's a really interesting question...

I concealed carry almost every day. I have a license, etc., so it is legal.

However, I also know that the presence of a gun is a problem for some people. So, for example, I talked to my massage therapist about it. Told her I carry. Asked about her opinion. And we came to an agreement. She is creating a safe space for me to be naked and vulnerable in, and I want to respect that, and not harm it in any way.

Now... if I was going on a first date with someone, I need to consider some things:

Option 1: Do I tell them about it so we are completely up front and honest about this? Starting off on the right foot?

Option 2: Do I not tell the person, since this is just a first date, and we don't really know where this is going yet.

If I take Option 1, then I risk alienating the other person immediately. Or, possibly start off a new relationship on a really strong foundation of trust and honesty.

If I take Option 2, and the date goes well, and there is another date... do I tell her then? After the 5th date? What if it gets down to heavy petting and she stumbles across it? What if I wait until I "feel something for her", and tell her then... and she's completely turned off? Then we both get hurt.

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Obviously, this depends a lot on how the conversation comes up.

"Don't worry about a thing, little lady. I can protect us." (Pulls back coat to reveal concealed weapon.)

versus

"I think it is important to be up front and honest with you, so I'd like you to know that I regularly carry a concealed weapon. How do you feel about that?"

... are very different conversations.