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goobster  ·  2668 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 7, 2016

That's why I didn't delete it. I have many friends all over the world who I want to keep in touch with, and FB is just a good tool for peeping into their lives.

What I did is change my behavior with FB, so I get more from it.

When I log in, I immediately click on my name to jump away from the Feed, and go straight to my profile. This way I can see if anyone has posted to my page or tagged me in anything I should see.

Then I type in specific people's names, to go to their profile, and see what is new with them.

It's a minor thing, but it gives ME agency and control, and puts me in the driver's seat with my interactions with FB. Rather than just passively scrolling through the Feed, I am actively looking for specific people, which feels much more genuine and "connected" to them.

"Hey friend, what have YOU been up to lately?"

This way I find is more honest, or something. Intentional.

And I do have a big cheat: My wife is always on FB. So if something happens, I know about it through her.