hang on hang on cgod buddy:

When GuruOfPeace says he "confessed to her" that he "read her forum messages" - did he say

"YOU BITCH, what's with your forum posts!"

or did he say, "I noticed you referred to yourself as "single" on the X forum. I was wondering if you meant you were single or if you were playing around with various alternate personnae? What's up?"

or did he say, "How do you see our relationship?"

or did he say, "I know when we got together 1.5 years ago, you were still married to your ex. I understand that after a divorce, people need to know they're still attractive and sometimes need quite a bit of attention before they feel okay about themselves. I'm wondering how you feel about me now that it's been almost two years. Let's talk about how we feel about each other and what we hope will happen in the future."

Nobody likes being judged. There are ways to say - hey what's up, with a genuine desire to know and there are ways to say, wtf, with a genuine desire to judge and accuse.

awww -- maybe you're right, dump her.