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jleopold  ·  3089 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ask Hubski: How do you fight loneliness?

I crave solitude regularly. I struggle to truly focus with others around, and in general, I'm much more productive, and happy in my efforts when I'm by myself. I get on edge whenever my entire family is home.

I still get lonely of course. My latest school dance, I worked on setting up a mountain biking race rather than go to the dance. Looking the next day at social media, I felt lonely. So, I went for a ride. Whenever I feel lonely, I try to turn that feeling into solitude.

Biking helps me a ton here. I can think through things just by myself; where ever I go, it's through my own strenght and ability; I can just escape for a while. Mountain biking especially helps, because I just don't have time to feel lonely as I'm hitting those trails. Giving attention to loneliness would end in broken parts.

Other ways are less healthy/legal. That's just how things go. Writing works well too, no matter what I'm feeling. I channel the loneliness into a character, or start a new piece to encourage forward movement. There's another big part of my loneliness therapy: forward movement. In some lonely periods last week, I signed up on cryptogrind to start freelancing some (for Bitcoins). I'll take the loneliness and figure out what I can do with the extra time that makes me feel good about where my life is heading, and the urge of future success lessens the loneliness.