Honestly, as long as we've established that I'm not saying we should ignore ethnicity (and that I don't believe the article does, either), I'm fine with us disagreeing on this point.

It might be a hassle, but I know it's something that's important to people I care about, so I'm going to change my behavior to make them more comfortable. The Facebook posts, to me, felt like people expressing how they felt in response to something I (or others) might do, and I don't want to invalidate their opinions because they feel like a personal attack against me.

None of the social media posts (and I only casually looked through them again, so I'm probably wrong) were talking directly about white people anyways. The whole crux of the issue is summarized in this post, which ties into your comment here. Nobody is saying not to look for common ground (which I don't think is the goal people usually have when asking this question), but to use more direct questions that people might be more comfortable with.

And really, at the end of the day, I don't really care what you do. People I love care about this, so I choose to care about it as well. I honestly thought that the hubski crowd would like the article more, but at the very least I'm glad that it's caused this discussion.

And to be clear, because I felt like my earlier comment came off as a little bit whiny, I do enjoy your input on my posts, and your presence on hubski as a whole. I don't usually respond to your comments, since I don't usually have as much free time as I've used on this thread, but I do read them all, and I'm glad they're there.