You're more help than you think. The fact that some people aren't as certain of themselves as KB is heartening, in a sick way. Mindfulness has been a pretty good tool, and meditation is a big part of that. I recently went back to the survey of the body, rather than the more abstract techniques I had been using, because I had been neglecting body awareness. I don't even understand how someone can exist outside of their relationship to outcomes. Thing goes well, I am happy, thing goes bad, I am sad. I don't see it as wisdom to confuse pain with pleasure. (No judgement on kink) Also I currently have a looser idea of what the future will be than ever before, because my philosophy of science professor from last semester made me really conservative about using words like 'cause' and 'effect.' Now I'm just pretty certain that things happen, and that people have opinions about those things that happen. And even that's not a 100%.