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OftenBen  ·  3876 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I make people feel stupid? Patronized?

    Perhaps their reactions made you feel like an asshole because you brought a conflict where they thought there wouldn't be one.

This. I always hear (Because I'm in treatment for depression) life isn't all happy all the time, there will be conflicts. But then I also hear that I should go out of my way to avoid conflict, just be smooth and agreeable with all people, be 'pleasant' (I use quotes because someone being falsely agreeable with me I see as unpleasant.)