Yes, I'm replying to myself: I just want to add, that younger people often do not know what words mean and the weight attached to them. I may have said this somewhere else, but once again: I have students who are young, smart speakers of English as a second language. I heard them referring to someone as a douche and asked them if they knew what it meant. They said, "A douche is a bad person." "Actually," I said, "A douche is a woman's sanitary device for her girl places. Look it up." You can see how deep misogyny runs in the culture when devices for cleaning your vagina became synonymous with an evil or stupid person. There's a word in Spanish that is used to mean a timewaster or a useless person. The literal translation is someone who performs cunnilingus -- hardly a waste of time in my world. More evidence of a cultural misogyny.