i have a lot less life experience than either of you but i have a lot of this kind of experience specifically - wanting is something i can relate to. i wrote something the other day that i had been meaning to put on hubski so i'll put it here

Go attic-kept, unventured, unopened, arranged -

Patched up with perfume on cracked-lipped crevices

That caught man sticking:

Wishing:

Well,

I beat him brutal; he breathes out breasts,

I clot him steady; I cut him again.

I paint him sore; he takes it green -

Would that he had been ready:

the woman unwilling.

wanting the future is okay - it's okay to want to lose weight in the new year or want to buy a sports car. it would even be okay to have thoughts of "what if i left my wife to marry this lady i love" - i mean okay in terms of it not being inherently bad for you. but wanting the past is always going to be harmful to you because there's no way to change it. it might be fortune-cookie obvious to say it, but it's obvious because it's important. potential reality is addictive and indulging in it can only ever be hurtful

i don't know anything, all i know is that i know what you mean by mental storm

what kind of capitalist future will come about can be seen by the capitalist present around the world - geriatric bloodlessness or fascism seem to be the two frontrunners so it'll be interesting to see how the cookie crumbles

i think the problem with a modernist kind of outlook of like "these contradictions will inevitably resolve themselves" kind of thing is that it turns out you can just sit in quiet misery as a country for a long time without really collapsing or anything -things just kinda get worse and if you're able to tune out you do it - only big shocks can get you awake

I'm thinking fukushima daiichi reactor accident on 3.11 in japan and then the abe assassination. the LDP are truly awful but they're bloodlessly awful in the same way that cancer is awful and heart attacks are awful - what can you do?

to return to the topic: no matter what your outlook on china is like, everybody can see the contradictions, but it's down to interpretation whether they're pulling together or apart

goosesteppers break into the media offices to declare martial law:

millenial journalists: uh, so that just happened. ...he's right behind me, isn't he. worst. day. ever!

turns out that if you report percentage likelihood instead of predicting winners you can literally never be proven wrong because you give every result a chance of winning

mark zuckerberg punches himself in the face because he wants to live in ready player one: the continuing saga

on god this is the truth - i live in a college town and work on a street adjacent to a campus of 50,000 -that's a lot of kids who will work for piss wages for spending money and a lot of kids who don't need any money but will work for free for "experience"

i am making 13 dollars an hour because companies are entirely satisfied with being critically understaffed and paying peanuts to monkeys, just as long as the big number on the balance sheet gets bigger - when i see a motherfucker talk about the real world like everybody has perfect knowledge of all their options and a perfect ability to carry them out my eyes glaze over because it's a pitiful cardboard cutout of the world that gets trotted out to win cheap points - hint: if every economics 101 alum agrees with you, that's more of a knock on you than a benefit

every kindergarden class agrees: 5 minus 6 is 0 because when you take away 5 apples from 5 apples, there aren't any left to take away. libtards destroyed with facts and logic

13 dollars american is about 22-23 dollars NZ apparently so that might make it seem a bit more feasible

i can live where i am because i live with my boyfriend and we split the rent, otherwise rent and utilities per month would be more than my total income

beyond paying rent, I'm lucky enough to be on my parents' healthcare and to have my phone bill be part of a family plan, so that saves a significant amount of money per month

beyond that it's pretty much as you would expect

would you believe i had to bargain my way up to 13? i started at 12.50 and asked to split the difference higher into the hourly wage range in the job posting

it's hard to bargain when you're unemployed and have very limited work experience - i have no idea how much a college degree in ling/japanese and a few months of working as a waiter is worth to a hiring manager but apparently it's worth 12.50

it's also hard to remember now that I'm finally making some amount of money that I'm getting ripped off, because any money looks like a lot of money when you're used to having no income - i can pay my half of the monthly rent after only 2 weeks of work? :o wow poggers!

honestly i don't know how long i should plan to be working here, i don't know how much time is enough to be a good resume filler and how much is just spinning my wheels.

i just started a receptionist job at 13 bucks an hour and despite everything else about the job being honestly quite nice, it's just still not worth putting your whole ass into it at the price

the mcdonalds down the street is hiring at 15/16 dollars an hour, man, there's no reason to work as a front desk jockey anymore except for resume building for office jobs

hi hubski: I'm sick with the flu or something not-covid that's made me lose my voice and be fevered and coughing. been sleeping a lot.

my name is katherine. my family calls me kate. my boyfriend calls me kat. maybe hubski can call me Quatsrina

seeing your username get replaced with "user-inactivated" made me want to tap out of this site for good.

the value in hubski is the people, the relationships, the community - being able to have a conversation or share something. nudge lives together. i think in the end i'm just sad to see people burn out or drift apart

i don't know what to write

i have a lot of love to give and nowhere to put it

what social conservatism does to a mfer

alt. oneliner: what revisionism does to an mfer

this is where liberalism comes to die - the right to oppress is as just as the right to fight against oppression. we are all equal - "The law, in its majestic equality, forbids rich and poor alike to sleep under bridges, to beg in the streets, and to steal their bread."

but speaking plainly - these freaks are tricking you! don't let them trick you into believing this stuff by coating it with pseudointellectual wrapping. these are the same opinions that have been held by conservatives since the dawn of time, namely:

1. those in power have the power to criticize and control

2. those not in power do not

yesteryear the wrapper was "these people harm society". these years the wrapper is "everyone is equal". when you look at a thinktank bigwig and a migrant strawberry picker, who sees equality? who's the one getting to write the op-ed?

But in fact, when you see what’s been attacked as so-called hate speech on campus, it’s opposing the idea of defund the police, opposing the idea of open borders.” Any questioning of transgender ideology or identity is cast as “denying the humanity of trans people, or transphobic.” Ms. Strossen hastens to add that “I completely support full and equal rights for trans people,” but she says critics are “raising concerns that I think deserve to be raised and deserve to be discussed.”

woe to the world where we can no longer freely ask questions and raise concerns over whether other groups people should exist, where a trans person's freedom to live in peace takes precedence over the freedom for them to be assaulted, and woe to those poor souls who must now face backlash for their harmless little thoughts - the real problem with the world is that it's just too PC - people are being thrown in jail or murdered in the streets just for saying that the police shouldn't be defunded!

I'm just asking questions! there's the Trans Question, the Immigrant Question - you know, simple harmless questions.

and i don't remember where you mentioned it but vegan meat substitutes are actually popping off, i had some "sausages" that were shockingly good in both flavor and texture and i've kinda been craving them over the regular meat - i'm fine with eating the soy byproduct instead of the cow it would have gone to, it's actually praxis to cut out the middleman tbh smh btw

damn i really popped off on that one

i gotta say i love serious eats but only because they attempt to explain why you should do the things they're telling you instead of saying "do it like this, jackass" - having said that it's unfortunate that kenji and co. have stunted child palates and only go full analysis on three-ingredient american staples like "the burger" and "the egg" and "the boiled potato" - and you know what, boiling potatoes with 2 qt water 2 tbsp salt 2 tbsp white vinegar makes some baller potato salad so i'm not hating but at a certain point it gets embarrassing to overthink some of this stuff

to be honest the extreme basics of cooking from scratch will take you beyond the average and into the zone of "i feel this was worth my time to make dinner instead of buying smth premade" and that's good enough unless you have a hobbyist interest in cooking

it's kinda like cosmo sex tips for food - you don't need to weigh each patty to make sure they're all exactly 12.5 grams each, just ask her "does this feel good" and you'll get there

fascinating how the head of skeptic magazine takes a fucking Daily Wire commentator at his word when he says he's just asking questions, and yet assumes that the people he tricked into his film are all squirming around because deep in their heart of hearts, they secretly agree, but can't admit it because of the woke mob.

i hope you're happy, cocksucker, because they're coming for atheists next, you credulous fool

how reductive. how contrary to human experience. a man produces sperm, a woman produces eggs - so a eunuch is no longer a man? is a woman not a woman after menopause? a man has a penis, a woman has a vagina - so what about one of the people who are born with ambiguous genitalia, bodies with characteristics of "both" sexes? it's idiotic, and no scientist will tell you that sex and gender are the same thing. it's not wokeness gone wrong, it's not an abandonment of objective truth, as michael here hysterically says - it is objective truth.

"If so, then why does a person assigned at birth as a male but who identifies as a female need to remove the penis? Why does a person assigned at birth as a female but who identifies as a male need to add a penis? If a “woman” or a “man” is whatever anyone claims as their identity based on internal beliefs and feelings instead of external equipment—as one online influencer told Walsh, “Some people are boys, some people are girls, some are both, some are neither. Gender is all about how you feel on the inside and how you express yourself.”—then why would anyone put themselves through the ordeal of transitioning?"

what a lack of understanding of the motivations behind transitioning, of the concept of dysphoria / struggling with the stark contrast between self-perception and appearances / the way you're treated. why would a skinny teen with dreams of becoming a bodybuilder ever want to exercise and build muscle? why would a married woman who wants to have an affair take off her wedding ring at a bar? this is the crucial misunderstanding that so many people fail to even realize they're making - to be a woman is to be treated like a woman, to be a man is to be treated like a man. we define what it is to be a particular gender through our behavior and our expectations, not through some collection of meat. why is a graceful ship on the water called she? why is a deeply pitched computer generated voice perceived as a man's? because we associate these characteristics to them. why is a mother-in-law a go-to person that comedians joke about not wanting to talk to? all it is is the mother of your spouse, there's nothing inherently bad about that, right?

the entire trans "debate" relies on the confusion between what is real and what is bestowed on real things by our behavior. sure, you can say that a woman is a vaginahaver and a man is a penishaver - but are you gonna say to little David "hold on, sport, let's see your cock before you can go play with the boys"? no - you hear the name, you see the clothes, you perceive all the things that we associate with the category "boy", and you let him play and live his life

but not for long! if these trannytrackers win the """"debate"""", soon we will all be reduced to meat

a laundering of warmed over bigotry from pinker and walsh for the "thinking" set by mr. shermer, a thought daddy and nominal psychologist speaking well outside his area of expertise - there is no distinction recognized between biology and society and no grasp of either. a sickening read, for all the olive branches he timidly offers up about how "transphobia is bad" and "everyone is human at the end of the day" while fearmongering about transness as a social contagion. he quotes the author of a book called "you're teaching my kids what?" - 50 years ago, that book would be about racemixing. 40 years ago, satanic rituals. 30 years ago, fags - the modern fag is the tranny. it sickens me to see people falling for it

yeah the problem with waiting for the kids with better opinions to take over is that shit sucks now and the feinsteins of the world aren't going anywhere until god takes matters into his own hands so it's a wash