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comment by AlderaanDuran
AlderaanDuran  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why Have Sex?

I'm not humanodon, but feel similar to how he does.

    I cannot imagine how having sex can increase your social status

The only people sex increases social status for are maybe high school kids. No one really gives a shit passed that time in our lives if you've had sex or not. Sex as a social status is a temporary thing to immature people. I don't see sex having anything to do with social status.

    or how need for sex doesn't make you stressed

It only makes you stressed if you let it. I hate to use the term "don't put the pussy on a pedestal", but it's an anecdote that applies here. It can only stress you out if YOU are putting to much weight on it in your life. Personally, whether I am getting sex or single and not getting any, I'm not stressed about it either way.

Also, one other thing you said above that I disagree with too...

    attraction - does not explain why people need sex. Many people are attracted to power, wealth, cars, things, but I have yet to see how you can make an intercourse with a car, coins or power

Attraction and sex are natural and things humans, and all creatures, experience. Power, wealth, cars, and more modern obsessions are not. These things aren't proper comparisons.

I have no problems with how you want to look at sex, by all means, we're all entitled to our opinions. But some of the ways you explained it seem to be stretching a little and based in personal insecurity. If you don't like sex and don't want to pursue it, I'm cool with that, but like you admitted, you're definitely coming off as "anti-sex" and don't seem to get why anyone would engage in it.





thenewgreen  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    The only people sex increases social status for are maybe high school kids. No one really gives a shit passed that time in our lives if you've had sex or not. Sex as a social status is a temporary thing to immature people. I don't see sex having anything to do with social status.
I'm not sure I agree with this. Unfortunately, much like an expensive car or a large home, men and women tend to view how attractive a persons partner is with social status. It may not be overtly about "sex", but it pretty much is.
theadvancedapes  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Definitely agree with you thenewgreen. Social status and sex go hand in hand throughout life, not just in high school.

humanodon  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah totally. Part of the whole rock star mythos is access to sex and I'd be willing to bet that a lot of people who wish they could be rock stars hold that wish, precisely for that reason, whether or not they are conscious of it.

AlderaanDuran  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Forget the girls in the rock star life. Give me the money and drugs. :)

humanodon  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well, either one of those can be used to get with girls (and some women) too :)

AlderaanDuran  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    men and women tend to view how attractive a persons partner is with social status.

I agree, but I would consider those people shallow, and shallow people focus on a lot of stupid stuff in life. I like to think they aren't the majority, and are an extreme minority... but maybe I'm wrong. A guy can dream.

I don't care if my friends are dating "ugly girls", or have significant others that are "overweight", it doesn't matter to me. I don't lose respect for a peer or someone I admire when I find out their wives or girlfriends aren't attractive. That would make me the dick. So yeah it matters to some people for social status. But who are we talking about, the people who frequent the club scene and spend more on clothes than they do on rent? Like you said, the people who like expensive cars and big houses? I guess I really don't look to them as the role model for how society as a whole should act or does act.

For clarity I don't care if people have big houses or nice cares, as I enjoy nice things too, but when what they drive is more important in life than what they do and give back or how they spend their life, then I'm not a fan of those people and would consider them shallow. IE; The guy who spends more than half his monthly earnings so he can rock a BMW M3 but lives in a shitty apartment in the ghetto... I bet that dude pulls ladies at the club every weekend and has a high social status within his group of other people who care about material stuff and makeup-laden women, but try and get me to care what they think.

I guess I just don't care about those types of people that would be that judgmental over something so superficial.

thenewgreen  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't care if my friends are dating "ugly" or "pretty" girls either. But I would be lying if I said I didn't notice either way. When I see a beautiful woman walking down the street with a man that is 20 years older, I make certain assumptions, right or wrong. I'd be shocked if you didn't too. I am seemingly biologically wired for such things.

saldejums  ·  3923 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That is just a topic I cannot comprehend and my personal, subjective way how I see it. You have just peaked in how certain people see that.

About stress: Exactly. It is quite hard not to think about it with all the naked advertisements, western music, even for somebody who is completely uninterested in that. I clearly remember how a pack of smokes always stressed me when i felt it in my pocket. I stopped smoking right after five years just by not having one in my pocket.