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i48998  ·  4909 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Roger Ebert: I do not fear death
"I was perfectly content before I was born, and I think of death as the same state"

Bingo!





mk  ·  4909 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I used to be terrified of death, hell, and even scared of heaven (I really didn't want to be in clouds with angels with harps!) when I was young. I don't remember when I originally came to that notion, but once I did, I felt much better about death. I could finally relate to it.
i48998  ·  4909 days ago  ·  link  ·  
The thing about human death is, that you have to wonder who is dying of you. You as an infant already died if you grew up to be a youth, and you as a youth died when you grew up to be an adult....So on and so forth.

It is obvious already that individual constantly undergoes changes. The analogy here is with caterpillar - chrysalis - butterfly. So if we're not afraid of growing up (transforming from one stage of life to another) than how is physical death any different?

mk  ·  4908 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Interesting point. I often wonder at my younger selves, what it would be like to meet them.

The caterpillar - butterfly thing is interesting. I wonder if a butterfly retains any caterpillar memory, or if it is a clean slate. That really would be two lives, only connected by physical material. Like me and so many other creatures that came before that used these atoms. Well, I guess the like the creatures I've consumed too.

thenewgreen  ·  4908 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I think about the conversation that I would have with my younger self occasionally. I wonder how much of my life I would have to justify? I'm thankful that it's a very, very small amount. No one ever grows up thinking they'll be a "financial planner" or a "dental hygienist", most of us were going to be astronauts or the President.

What I know now, is that a good career is fulfilling on a level, provides financially and gives you enough time to pursue your passions. A great career IS your passion.

I have a "good" career. I think the younger version of myself would approve.

Also, in a previous post (I forget where, perhaps you can remind me) @mk mentioned that one of the gifts of aging is "self confidence" or a lack of insecurity... I forget the phrasing. Either way, you are totally right. I think our younger selves would be impressed with how confident we are. Don't you?

mk  ·  4908 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I think it was that aging gave the gift of "not giving a shit".

I would like to think I pass the younger self test. The teenage mk would be the most critical, of course. I was very sensitive to hypocrisy at that time, and I don't think I'm guilty of much. I like my current job. I'm not sure I see a great career as my passion, however. I think I see it as one that enables me to be more of myself, and perform less duties that aren't of my design. Maybe I just say that because I don't have so much of a singular passion, but get jazzed about so many different things.

I don't know about the confidence thing. I think my younger self and I traded some confidences. It's an interesting thought.