Hubski, is it selfish to feel frustrated because you're spending all your time doing things that help other people and therefore are accomplishing nothing that you need to do for yourself? Because, on reflection, the past year has been that way for me. The windshield wipers on my daily driver stopped working for some reason, so for now I'm just hoping it doesn't rain when I have to drive somewhere. One of my students cheated this week. On the one hand, I'm pissed because every time that happens it eats up several hours of my time meeting with people and running paperwork around campus. On the other, I'm getting pretty efficient at doing that, for better or for worse. At least in two weeks a lot of this will be over and maybe I'll be able to get anything done. Sorry for the rant.
Yes. As it should be. Being selfish doesn't have to have a bad connotation. In this context, it reads as though the past year hasn't been centered on [your]self. For me, if I'm not furthering myself in some way that is clear to me, then what's the point? To be clear, caring for others is well and good and honorable, but taking care of myself ensures have enough in my tank to share with others. I can try in vain, but I can't show compassion for others if I don't have it for myself. Learning to say no and what purpose is usually a good step forward when I land in this spot.Hubski, is it selfish to feel frustrated because you're spending all your time doing things that help other people and therefore are accomplishing nothing that you need to do for yourself? Because, on reflection, the past year has been that way for me.
Yes - and you should feel that way because you have a self to take care of. Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm. Helping others must be strictly because you want to. Otherwise, you just let others lead you by your nose - and that's entirely too much power given to those people.Hubski, is it selfish to feel frustrated because you're spending all your time doing things that help other people and therefore are accomplishing nothing that you need to do for yourself?